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Jamie Rindler's avatar

Hi, Victoria! First, I'm so sorry for the pain you have experienced because of infertility. You're right that I've never felt what you've felt, and I don't claim to fully understand. I do address this in the post. Since you've commented on a different post than the one I've written on IVF, did you read the full post? (If not, I can comment a link for you to find it quickly.) I would think on reading it, one would see that it is not simple.

There are some teachings of the Church that are hard to accept. She only teaches them out of love for us! Jesus weeps with you in your sorrow.

I'll be praying for you!

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Victoria Leforestier's avatar

Thank you Jamie

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Victoria Leforestier's avatar

I am 75 yrs old . I went through many IVF procedures in order to have a child. This was in the early 80's long before I knew it was a mortal sin. Since you've never been infertile you have no idea how overwhelming the desire to have a child is. My mother on her death bed advised me to adopt . Those words were from the Holy Spirit . I immediately gave up my. 8 yr search for any and all methods to have a child.

My greatest blessing in this life has been my two beautiful children .

I thank God for them everyday.

I am reluctant to view IVF as treating children as a commodity . It is simply a way to facilitate getting pregnant using your eggs and your husbands sperm. My intent was wholly innocent and born of a great desire to have children.

I've confessed my many infertility sins , but still find it impossible to see IVG as evil. God saw my desire and fulfilled it through adoption - thank God!

I am disappointed that many infertile women would read your article and feel sinful - simply by desperately wanting children.

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Jamie Rindler's avatar

Hey Victoria, it looks like I forgot to hit "reply" when making a reply to your comment. Here's my response in case you didn't see it: https://thegentlenudge.substack.com/p/my-favorite-way-to-pray-with-scripture/comment/86367811?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=2k266z

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Victoria Leforestier's avatar

I was so sad and disappointed to view my desire for a child as a commodity"

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